Addressing the Roots

For a very long time, we tried to fix everything that was broken in our marriage by suffocating ourselves under forced reactions to natural problems. Then, through therapy and emotional overtime, we started addressing the roots of the trees that were casting shadows on our marriage. And then, I got to know my husband in a new light. … More Addressing the Roots

Happy Hunting

Emotional stability can often feel like a full-time job. Well, I’m putting in overtime today. Some days Peace might be hiding in yellow leaves on a tree – nothing spectacular, just something pretty that catches your eye. It might be tucked away in the bright red paint on the tip of Autumn’s brush. … More Happy Hunting

Self-esteem Doesn’t Grow on Trees

Some days, I feel lost in my own maze. I find myself frequently caught in the middle of moods that surround me on all sides, blocking my view of the sun. The days in my marriage that are hardest for me are the ones when it feels like something is “off” but nothing actually is. I have spent countless hours trying to bottle all the parts of our best days, so I could clone them later. But you can’t grow happiness in a jar. It can only be found in the wild. The movement and passion of organically grown joy has no synthetic equal. … More Self-esteem Doesn’t Grow on Trees

Commitment to Community

I have not always been merciful to my community and it has not always been kind to me. I have doubted its loyalty and distanced myself from the possibility of pain. I have shown up unwilling to work or waver in my stubbornness. I have listened to the lies that my feelings told and let them rot and spoil in the dampness of my mind. I have not treated my community’s wounds because I believed that it had earned them. But I am committed to my community as a wife commits to her husband. … More Commitment to Community